Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Let Go Your Stress. Make It Free

Dear Guys,

Today, I want to share a Lesson from my alma-mater that I have gained with you in the form of a Story.

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: "How heavy is this glass of water?"

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!


Original source:
How to Overcome Stress ? Panacea (Stress Management)

Friday, August 31, 2012

Cognitive Distortions And Stress management

Stress can affect every aspect of life in general. That is why it is essential that people learn a bit of stress management since the experience can sometimes be inevitable. A little bit of stress now and then can sometimes be helpful in that it keeps a person be conditioned to react when certain unexpected circumstances happen. But this is the type of stress that one can easily cope up with. On the other hand, experiencing too much stress can have adverse effects on the body.

There are many ways that people do to try and cope up with stress. One of the most common but certainly not the quickest means is by changing a person's mindset. It has been known that how a person thinks greatly affects his behavior and actions. If a person always thinks negatively, behavior seems likely to follow the same way. And when a person' s way of thinking and behavior is based on negativity, it is more likely that stress becomes an ever present companion in every aspect of life. In order to stop stress from becoming a damaging factor in one's life, then one has to get rid of all the negativity in terms of behavior and thinking.

One way of trying to get rid of the negativity in one's mindset is by trying to identify. There is a form of stress therapy called cognitive restructuring which deals with identifying and changing a person's faulty thinking and unrealistic beliefs. Cognitive distortions is another term used to refer to these faulty thinking and beliefs. By correcting these distortions, only then can one be able to change one's way of thinking.

People make use of different cognitive distortions which can be associated with stress. These are faulty thinking and beliefs that lead people to behave or act in a negative way. And there are several cognitive distortions that are common problems in many people. One of them is over generalization.

Over generalization is a common cognitive distortion among many people.  Some may not be aware of it, but a lot of people are always guilty of over generalizing. It can be considered as a normal reaction by some. But too much of it can lead one to stress.

It is normal for people to base judgments on past experiences. When a person has experienced a negative event, it then becomes a factor that one naturally tries to relate other succeeding negative events of the same kind. This is why most people tend to develop stereotypes. But then over generalizing tends to  make people believe that when experiencing a certain situation, all the other similar situations in the future would result in the exact same way.

People over generalize by thinking that there would be no difference in terms of results to similar situations that happen in the past to ones that happen in the present or in the future. When one has an experience with a rude salesperson, an over generalizer would judge that all salespersons are also rude.

Another common distortion in most people that is corrected in stress management is the trait of always jumping into conclusions. There are many people who, when faced with a certain situation tend to jump into making conclusions of why certain events happen. This is usually made before any evidence has been taken to back up the conclusion. For every negative situation, people with this cognitive distortion often try to go straight into concluding in the negative.

This can become so bad that people easily accepts the conclusion, even to the point of ignoring signs and evidences that prove the contrary.

Dealing With Crisis

Dealing with a crisis can be a very stressful experience. It can either lead one to suffer from some personal trauma or have the means to go over the whole experience and come out a better person. Stress management during a crisis requires knowing how to take hold of the situation before it takes its hold on you.

One of the important ways to effectively deal with a crisis is to try and keep hope alive even though things are showing that there seems nothing left. Stress and anguish usually follow a person through a crisis especially after he or she gives up hope. And when a person gives up any hope, it can become pretty difficult to handle the stress and assume any control to the ensuing problems that a crisis may bring. Although most people may think that finding any hope in a hopeless situation such as a crisis is a gift that not all may be blessed of having, it can otherwise be learned and practiced. All it takes is having the ability to look upon a situation in a more objective manner.

One of the first thing to do in a crisis situation is to try and assess its degree of magnitude. By looking at the problem from the point of how it will affect you, you try to assess the situation and try to look upon things that you have no control over and separate them from the things that you still can assume control. Doing so will help you look upon a crisis as a situation where you may still be able to do something. Looking at a crisis that way can help provide some encouragement that you may not be as helpless as you first thought.

Not that you have looked over and assessed a certain crisis that you are in, you then try to take note of the things that you still have control over. The next thing to do when in a crisis is to make use of situations that you still may have control over and work on those instead of trying to wrestle with circumstances that you cannot control. In order to deal with a crisis situation, it is important that you try to accept the fact that there are just some things that you cannot change. What you can do is to focus on those things that you still have a chance of respond to positively and still have control over. This will help you rebuild some confidence by building up some sense of control even in a crisis situation.

In trying to handle a difficult crisis, one way to avoid creating further stress and anxiety is to try and separate things in your life that are affected by the crisis from those that are not. There might be some areas of your life that a current crisis would not affect in any way. Having the ability to avoid letting these areas be affected by a crisis not only helps keep the crisis isolated, it also helps make the crisis situation looked smaller than you may think it is.

By making a crisis affect the whole of your life, you run the risk of letting it try to engulf you, creating a massive problem out of something that may not really look that overwhelming in the first place. It can be quite a big stress management problem.

And what's more, having a certain area of your life that remains unaffected by the crisis can still provide you a dose of sanity to a life already troubled.

Thursday, August 30, 2012

Tips for Time Management

Many studies show that one of the best ways to manage stress is through effective time management. Why? It is because lack of time usually pressures people. When people are being pressured, stress surfaces, which hinders them from finishing their tasks ahead.

While it is true that nobody's born with precise skills in time management, this should not be difficult because people can always learn it. All they have to do is organize their thoughts and everything will most probably fall into place.

Managing your time well

To effectively manage your time, the first thing that you need to do is to set your mind into it. You have to recognize your strengths and weaknesses when it comes to managing your time and set appropriate actions for it. What you can do is list down what are your difficulties in achieving goals and tasks behind the given schedule. Once you have determined the factors, which hinder you in achieving a certain task on time, you can make a draft of alternatives to solve them.

By doing this, it also shows a sign of maturity because you can admit to yourself what are the things that you're doing wrong when it comes to managing your time and performing tasks at hand. This is a very important part of gaining time management skills because maturity will help you think straight and prioritize your goals.

The following are other considerations when it comes to time management. These will help you not only gain time management skills but can also help you manage stress in various situations easily.

1. Gain skills in decision-making. Experts say that good decision making skills is key to achieving effective time management skills. This is because if a person is able to decide and prioritize things at hand, he or she can easily cut off so much time contemplating and can move on to the next task. If you want to manage stress through time management, it is best if you equip yourself with information on how to achieve effective decision-making skills and various techniques to do so.

2. Familiarize yourself with techniques that can help you manage your time well. This is very important in gaining time management skills because it can help you save more energy in doing things. Gaining prioritizing skills is quite important in effective time management because it will allow you to pay attention to things that are of most importance. These techniques on effective time management can be researched on the Internet or can be learned from the stories of people who were able to gain success through managing their time effectively.

3. Learn the ropes of planning. Experts say that people who know how to plan well are also good in managing their time. This is because planning is a skill, which needs a lot of patience and preparation at hand. Planning is a vital part of gaining time management skills because it can help people do things ahead of their time, thus, enabling them to patch up things that go wrong along the way in no time.

4. Put ideas and techniques into action. In acquiring the skills of effective time management, you must learn how to put into action that techniques that you have learned. By doing this, you can easily make a timetable for yourself in finishing the tasks ahead of you.

5. Arm yourself with tools. To manage time effectively and help you draft suitable means of stress management, you need tools and gadgets, which will make things easier for you. Today, there are so many modern gadgets that can be used to help you manage your time such as the Personal Digital Assistant or PDA and others.

Hand held devices can help you calendar your activities, thus, giving you more time for other things.

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Positive Affirmations for Stress Management

Stress management in life usually requires changes in the way you think. For people going through too much stress, maintaining a positive attitude can do a lot in helping deal with very difficult and trying circumstances. One way of trying to maintain a positive mindset is by using positive affirmations to influence the subconscious mind into thinking positive. Doing so would likely boost up one's ability to handle and deal with stress.

Positive affirmation is a good way to try and change a mind accustomed to a negative thought process into a positive one. Every word that a person says and every thought made is an affirmation. Each affirmation conditions the mind and one's way of thinking and acting. By carefully rethinking every affirmation into positive ones, a person can try to influence his or her mindset on the subconscious level to become positive.

Positive affirmations can greatly affect the way a person thinks. It is all made through the inner dialogue and self-talk that a person does to himself or herself. People go through a lot of self-talk for a variety of reasons. They want to affirm a certain idea to stick in their minds. Inner dialogue can help condition the mind to rethinking its beliefs. Self-talk can actually influence a person's behavior and actions.

With this in mind, using positive affirmations largely consists of using self-talk and dialogue. Simply making positive statements and repeating it over and over again in one's mind can be a way to influence one's own thinking and life. By repeating positive affirmations over and over again, they will eventually seep into a person's mindset, influence it and eventually determine how he or she would react to certain circumstances.

Using positive affirmations can actually help influence even a negative mindset. At first people who may use positive affirmations would think that it goes against their own set of beliefs and inner truths based on the inappropriate impressions that formed in their mind as they grow up. By using positive affirmations, the mind can gradually be taught or influenced to rethink its inner set of beliefs for a more positive one.

For a negative mindset, positive affirmations can be used as short positive statements that can be used to challenge an established but inappropriate set of beliefs. In can be compared to self-brainwashing, but the person has the option to choose which negative beliefs to replace. Using positive affirmations forces the mind to keep focused on positive truths that eventually will be accepted by the mind as its own. This would then later on affect a person's behavior and actions.

Different people may need to use different positive affirmations in their lives. This would depend on their own situations and their levels of stress management. Developing a certain positive affirmation to live by would require looking into what one intends to develop and achieve in life. This requires further assessment and evaluation of one's life to discover what things he or she considers as important and what end result he wishes to achieve.

Once an idea of what to strive and aim for is found, then one can be able to formulate a statement that would help condition your mind to reach for it. It can be a single or a few chosen statements. These statements should reflect the kind of reality that one wishes to create. The positive statements are then repeated through self talk regularly in order to reinforce it in the mind.

It would slowly seep in and eventually be accepted by the mind as its own truth.
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